Hello Good Folks!
Love is in the air for ThatKellieGirl. I am happy to announce that my Honey proposed to me on Valentine’s Day! I have been on cloud 9 ever since. It was truly one of the happiest days in my life. And what makes it even more special is the overwhelming response of love and support from family and friends. I truly feel blessed.
However, what is so interesting to me, is that as I make this transition to “become one” with the love of my life, I find it even more important to have a stronger relationship with my family and friends. I know a lot of people enter into a relationship with a ”bonnie and clyde” or “us against the world” type of mentality. And I guess that makes the relationship stronger. However, I prefer to use love as the foundation of this marriage (and really ALL my relationships).
I also am understanding the importance of the village or a support system. Not only do you need a village to raise a child, but to raise a family. I believe that marriages are at a dismal low because society celebrates the self, the ego more than the family. The single person is supposedly happier than the married couple. This might be true, but I tend to think it just depends on the person. Yet, the barrage of messages and lack of examples makes it challenging to enter and maintain a relationship, let alone a marriage. I believe a married person can be just as fulfilled as a single person. The variable is the willingness of the person, single or married, to work at it.
My village is my family. They provide the most support to me. And as I have matured, I find that a support system is more about learning and giving than receiving. At times, we don’t nurture our relationships, and wonder why we have drifted from friends and family. Or the relationship is one-sided. We only reach out when we need something or to vent instead of consistently connecting to learn, love and encourage each other. So as I move into marriage, I am humble because I have so much to learn and improve upon. I can admit that I don’t know everything, but I do know that I want to be the best that I can be.
So as I grow through his journey, I will be sharing my musings and experiences with you. I want to share and learn, so please comment. Let me know your thoughts or experiences about love, marriage or anything else in between.
In the meantime, enjoy the long weekend.
Peace and Blessings, ThatKellieGirl