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ThatKellieGirl and Cathy Hughes, Founder of Radio One and TV One

ThatKellieGirl and Cathy Hughes, Founder of Radio One and TV One

ThatKellieGirl was elated to be a part of  the Verizon Wireless Women’s Small Business Empowerment Series featuring Cathy Hughes, Founder of Radio One and TV One and Sheila Johnson, entrepreneur and philanthropist yesterday at the National Museum of Women.  These women of distinction were interviewed in front of an audience to encourage and empower women about building their businesses and following their passion.

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You are Already Living with the Love of Your Life

Hello Beautiful People.

So ThatKellieGirl has been reading this wonderful book entitled “All the Joy You Can Stand” by Debrena Jackson Gandy, and it’s been making me stop and say “Hhhhmmmmm.”  :-)  

I’ve had this book for a while, but never got to it.  So while re-organizing books and records, literally, this book popped out.   And it has been right on time for me.  

Check out this short excerpt from “All the Joy You Can Stand”.  You might even want to pick the book up for yourself. 

Peace and Blessings, ThatKellieGirl :-)

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Freedom Friday: Happy Chinese New Year

Hello Lovelies!

This Monday, millions of people began ringing in the Lunar New Year.  In DC, the new year will be celebrated on Sunday in Chinatown. 2012 is the year of the dragon. The year of the dragon is considered to be the luckiest of the Chinese lunar years.  ThatKellieGirl was born in the year of the dragon, so we will see what is in store for the rest of the year.

In the meantime, enjoy this unseasonably warm weather by heading out to some great events this weekend.

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Mz. Biz

ThatKellieGirl attending the Mz. Biz taping on Evening Exchange

ThatKellieGirl recently attended a taping of WHUT-TV‘s Evening Exchange to feature African-American, women entrepreneurs in their special series, “Ms. Biz”.   The event was to promote the Women and Girls Lead Initiative with the goal to focus, educate, and connect citizens worldwide in support of the issues facing women and girls.  As I move forward with my own entrepreneurial pursuits, I was very excited to hear about the success stories, lessons learned and how to’s from entrepreneurs  in the DC area.

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Music Monday

Happy Monday Good People!

I must admit.  I have a bad habit.

When situations become inconvenient, uncomfortable or challenging, I say six words…”this is getting on my nerves!”  “This” can be he, she, they or it.  And the Honey dutifully pointed this habit out to me since he usually hears, or should I say bears  the brunt of my complaints.   Now I recognize that this bad habit allows me to vent or complain about some thing I just don’t like.  Some people might think this is small.  However, as we talked, he made me realize that the more I air or speak these complaints and grievances, I am only adding more fuel to the fire.  I was adding energy to something negative rather than positive.  In order to begin to change the situation, I had to begin to speak and act differently.  We all know this is so much easier said because it is a habit.  It is second nature for me to just blurt out that “You are getting on my nerves!” 

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Freedom Friday: The Cherry Blossom Edition

Hello Good People!

TGIF! :-)

I hope the dip in temperatures doesn’t keep you in the house.  It is action-packed this weekend. 

My weekend kicks off as soon as I leave the J-O-B!  My Honey surprised me with tickets to see Naturally 7 this evening at the Strathmore.  I was impressed and enjoyed their BET Honor’s performance in honor of Herbie Hancock.  These brothers are bad!  So I am quite excited to see their live performance.

Tomorrow, The National Cherry Blossoms Festival officially kicks off (March 26-April 10).  Each year, the festival celebrates spring in the District, the gift of the cherry blossom trees and the enduring friendship between the people of the United States and Japan.  And Japan needs our friendship, support and prayers more than ever with the recent disaster. Check out the festival over the next 2 weeks.

And for all you runners out there, The National Marathon takes place on Saturday. There are still a limited number of bibs available for the marathon and half marathon. So get there before the 7AM start.

I also would like to send out a “Happy Black Marriage Day” to my parents this Sunday.  My parents truly provided a marriage model for me.  Not that they are perfect, but they taught and showed faith in God and each other, unconditional love, respect and hope.  So it is befitting that a day of love coincides with the cherry blossoms which represents good fortune and an emblem of love and affection.

So go out and show some love!  :-) And check out these ThatKellieGirl approved events.

Peace and Blessings.

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Freedom Friday: Ready for the Weekend Edition

Hello Family,

The sun finally came out for a little bit today.  I hope you were able to get some rays.  This week flew by for me, but I am ready for the weekend.  There are so many great events this weekend so make sure to get out of the house.

Remember to send out prayers to Japan for being hit by an earthquake and tsunami today.

Peace and Blessings!

Back to the Caverns by popular demand!!! Last year I saw the Rober Glasper Experiment, and all I can say is that they are the truth. Hailed by listeners and critics alike, Grammy nominated artist Robert Glasper is considered to be the consummate jazz pianist of his generation. A native of Houston, Texas, Glasper has performed with neo-soul singer Bilal, Mos Def,Q-Tip,Erykah Badu and Meshell Ndegeocello, among many others. With three widely popular albums released on the Blue Note label, Glasper melds modern genres while preserving the jazz tradition. Seeing is believing.

March 11& 12

Bohemian Caverns

2001 11th St NW

8:30Pm & 10:30PM

Get tickets here.

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Freedom Friday: The Inside Out Edition

Hey Good Folks,

I have a confession to make. At times, I can be distrustful of people at times.

It can be as simple as why is she looking at me like that.  I don’t know her.  And the  Boo says to me, don’t go into the dark room.  Then the woman comes over to me and says, I love your dress.  Where did you get it?  *whomp, whomp*

Why do we do this?  I believe that this is a defense mechanism. To avoid disappointment, embarrassment, rejection, or humiliation, we put on the defense of distrust. When we do this, our insecurities are rearing their ugly heads.  A great example of this is the “Taco Party” commercial.

The office worker’s fear of rejection (not being invited to the taco party) caused him to throw everyone under the bus.  Most people tend to see distrustful behavior at work, but we can find it anywhere.  We cut others down to make ourselves feel look and better, or to deflect attention from our shortcomings.  All we are doing is creating a toxic and stressful environment.  And we wonder why people are sick, depressed on plain unhappy.  I’ve been in hostile situations where I felt like I was playing war games. It eventually lead to me becoming stressed out, then sick.   Ultimately, we justify our distrustful nature because we have the battle stories (and scars) to prove it.  However, I am learning that continuing this behavior only perpetuates the cycle that hurts people.

So how can we stop being distrustful with each other?  It begins within.  If you want to change your environment, you have to change first.

1.) Keep Your Eye on the Prize: Many of us don’t feel good physically, mentally, emotionally because we don’t know where we are going.  We live day by day with no direction.  A purpose is our compass.  It gives you focus.  So when someone looks at you (real or imaginary), it doesn’t matter because you can’t be distracted by little things.  Your purpose motivates you to learn, grow and excel towards becoming the self-realized and self-fulfilled purpose you are supposed to be.

2.) Reboot Your System: After work, we have to muster up strength to cook, balance the checkbook and do other household tasks.  And if you have children, there are even more demands of your time.  So it is important to carve out time to reboot your system.  You can do this by praying, meditating and affirming yourself.  Even a computer has to shut down  or you will start to see glitches. You know you have daily responsibilities, so to be mentally clear and focus, you have to reboot.

3.) Get Fit: Another way to reboot your system is to exercise.  Inactivity actually makes you more tired.  Exercise allows you to release stress, but it will also rejuvenate your body.  We also want to eat foods that give us energy to accomplish our daily tasks.

4.) Don’t Take It Personal: I think this is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves.  It’s not about you, it’s about whatever issues the person is dealing with.  As the Boo says to me, “Hurting people, hurt people.”  The person who is always complaining, belittling or just plain negative is the person who is usually hurting the most. This doesn’t excuse the behavior, but it at least puts things in perspective.  It helps when we try to look beyond the surface rather than write off a person.  When we learn to step outside of ourselves, we might be a little more understanding and empathetic to others.  The best thing we can do is to either try to speak to them about their behavior.  Or treat them cordially and keep it moving.

Ultimately I am saying, believe in the best of yourself and others.  When we focus on the positive, we kill our fears, negativity and distrust in ourselves and others.  And even when they show you their “not-so-best”, show them more love and kindness.  This is usually when they need it the most.  We have to do something different if we want to see different results, right.  So whatever positive changes you want to make in your life, start your changes from the inside, then out.

One last thing, Happy Women’s History Month! :-)

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World Aids Day 2010 in DC

December 1st marks World Aids Day.  The theme this year is “How are you facing AIDS?”  In the U.S., there is an estimated 1.1 million Americans are living with HIV.  However, 1 out of 5 don’t know it.  When you begin to look at people of color, the numbers are alarming.

The CDC reports that African-Americans face the most severe burden of HIV and AIDS in the nation.

  • While blacks represent approximately 12% of the U.S. population, they account for almost half (46%) of people living with HIV in the US, as well as nearly half (45%) of new infections each year. HIV infections among blacks overall have been roughly stable since the early 1990s.
  • At some point in their life, approximately one in 16 black men will be diagnosed with HIV, as will one in 30 black women.
  • The rate of new HIV infections for black men is about six times as high as that of white men, nearly three times that of Hispanic/Latino men, and more than twice that of black women.
  • The HIV incidence rate for black women is nearly 15 times as high as that of white women, and nearly four times that of Hispanic/Latino women.

Hispanics/Latinos are also disproportionately impacted.

  • Hispanics/Latinos represent 15% of the population but account for an estimated 17% of people living with HIV and 17% of new infections. HIV infections among Hispanics/Latinos overall have been roughly stable since the early 1990s.
  • The rate of new HIV infections among Hispanic/Latino men is more than double that of white men and the rate among Hispanic/Latino women is nearly four times that of white women.

So what can you do?  FACE IT!

First off, GET TESTED.  DC has among the highest rate of infection of HIV, and has been on the forefront of addressing the issue.  The best thing you can do for your partner is to know you status.  Today, several places will be providing free testing.

 The Whitman-Walker Clinic will be sponsoring free HIV testing from 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m at the Elizabeth Taylor Medical Center (1701 14th St., NW), and from 9:00 p.m. to 4:30 p.m. at the Max Robinson Center (2301 Martin Luther King Jr. Ave., SE).

The Women’s Collective (1333 Rhode Island Ave., NE) will be hosting free testing from 9:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

The Student Union Building I at George Mason University’s Fairfax Campus will be offering free testing from 10:00 a.m. to 6:00 p.m. today, from 7:30 p.m. to 10:00 p.m. tomorrow, and from 7:30 p.m. to 10:00 p.m. on Friday. Ten panels from the AIDS Quilt will also be on view.

The Washington Hospital Center will be offering free HIV testing in front of the Washington Cancer Institute (110 Irving St., NW) today from 1:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. and tomorrow from 5:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m.

For other sites offering testing year round, click here.

Second, if you don’t practice abstinence, practice SAFE SEX.  The Fenty Administration recently launched the “Rubber Revolution DC,” a new campaign to promote condom use.  The Pope even tolerates condom use (at least in certain circumstances).


Wednesday, December 1st

International Conference on Stigma- The Attitude that spreads HIV.  Howard University Georgia Avenue, NW Cramton Auditorium. 8:30am-5:00 pm. Please join Miss America, the Congressional Black Caucus Foundation, doctors, nurses and other health care workers, elected officials, HIV/AIDS workers and activists and others from across the globe as they work together to seek strategies to eliminate the stigma associated with HIV . For more information, click here.

Identifying HIV/AIDS Prevention and Care Needs of Women of Color.  Rayburn House Office Building, Gold Room 45 Independence Avenue, SW 10:00 am-11:00 am. Join the National Minority AIDS Council, Positive Women’s Network and National Women’s AIDS Collective as they lead the discussion of gender specific needs of women of color in HIV/AIDS prevention and care.  This event is being held in cooperation with Congresswoman Barbara Lee (D-CA). For more information, click here.

Cocktails for a Cure at the Urbana Restaurant and Wine Bar 2121 P st. NW 6:00 pm-8:30 pm.  Support the Whitman-Walker Clinic while having a mid-week happy hour.  The evening will be hosted by Paul Wharton, co-star of the Real Houswives of DC. Hors d’oeuvres, $5 signature drinks, and a silent auction will highlight the evening. Admission is $10.  For more information, click here.  

Deten El SIDA. Maten La Promisa 2831 15th St. NW 5:00 pm. A ceremony and march to remember those who were lost to AIDS.  This event is sponsored by La Clinca del Pueblo and Mpoderate!

“I Am” Prayer and Candlelight Vigil 2200 Rhode Island Avenue, NE 6:30p.m. – 8:00 p.m. In addition to prayers, hot beverages, and light fare, all will be ministered to through poems, the Unity Fellowship Drum Ministry, and other expressions of hope and love in memory of the millions who have died of AIDS.  Dress warmly.

Thursday, December 2nd

The Golden Ticket Party for Prevention 1301 K st. NW 5:00 pm.  Metro TeenAIDS will bring young people from all over DC together to take a stand against AIDS and proclaim their desire to create an AIDS-free generation. DJ Quicksilva from WKYS will provide music, youth from SMYAL, Women’s Collective and MTA will perform, ‘The Other Side of Me’ film produced by MTA and City at Peace will be premiered. Marteniz Brown from the Greater Than AIDS campaign will speak and Axiom, the hip hop poetry duo, will perform as well. You could also win ‘golden’ tickets to see Usher and Trey Songz in concert later this month. For more information, click here.

Status Update – A Code Red Affair, Eden Lounge Rooftop, 1716 I Street, NW 7PM-11Pm
A fundraising event to promote HIV/AIDS Awareness in the DC Area.  All money raised will be donated to The AIDS Healthcare Foundation.  Give-a-ways, Guest Speakers, and music by DJ Mixxed and DC’s own “Black Alley” performing live. For more information, click here or call Astewaye Yigzaw (240) 304-5070.
Friday, December 3rd
 World AIDS Week Open Mic Night The DC Center, 1318 U Street, NW Doors open at 7:30 pm
A night of queer poetry and spoken word, focusing on HIV/AIDS issues. Everyone is welcome!
For more event information, click here or contact Mike Brazell at
Saturday, December 4th

Second Annual World AIDS Day Concert Roadside Cafe 2101 Benning Road NE 8 pm-10 pm. Join Al Sura Inc. as they raise money to benefit Damien Ministries and Inner Light Ministries.  Entertainment featuring Tamika Jones, Rayshunn Lamar, Septimus TheGreat, and Dymez Dennis.  Tickets are $20 in advance and at the door.  For more information or to purchase tickets, click here

Peace and Blessings!


Freedom Friday: The Black Friday Edition

Hey Good People!  I hope each and every one of you had a wonderful Thanksgiving.  I was able to spend some quality time with the family, eat my favorite dishes that only my Mom can make, and to count my blessings.  

For those of you who braved the crowds of Black Friday, I hope you found what you were looking for for a great price.  I decided not to participate in Black Friday this year.  This is probably at least my 4th or 5th year not participating.  I must admit though that I was quite tickled yesterday when the Boo and I went to a late night movie.  We drove by Old Navy, Best Buy and WalMart and folks were standing in line IN THE COLD RAIN waiting for the doors to open.  Some folks had even pitched a tent!  I was very amused.  I guess folks will do anything for a bargain discount.  Anyhoo…

  In the meantime, you can check out some events.  Be safe out there! ;-) 

National Harbor will kick off the holiday season by lighting up the night sky with fireworks and a 60 ft Christmas tree decorated with 20,000 lights. With hot chocolate and roasted nuts to keep visitors warm, the tree lighting will include story-telling and an ornament-making workshop from the National Children’s Museum as well as performances by Abbey Miller, Rashida Jolley, and the cast from Spirit of Christmas! The evening’s finale will be a spectacular light show featuring the lighting of the National Harbor Christmas Tree and fireworks.

Friday, November 26

National Harbor

Waterfront Plaza

145 National Plaza

National Harbor, MD 20745


Other Holidays Lightings and Exhibits:

U.S. Botanical Gardens


Festival of Lights at Watkins Regional Park


This Saturday, indulge your Thanksgiving cravings for celebration with soul sensation, Bilal, and special guest Yahzarah, performing live at The Black Cat in Washington, DC. Bilal’s debut recording, “1st Born Second,” helped create a sonic identity for the new millenium with instant classics like, “Soul Sista,” “Sometimes,” and “Fastlane.” Almost a decade later, Bilal continues to trailblaze with this year’s “Airtight’s Revenge” — keeping it funky with “Cake & Eat It Too,” romantic with “Restart,” and sentimental with “Think It Over.” Before Bilal takes the stage, DC’s own Yahzarah will kick off the night with fashion and vocal flares, showing the seasoned showmanship she gained from becoming a singer in church, recording two solo albums, and touring with Erykah Badu and The Foreign Exchange.

Saturday, November 27

Black Cat

14th & S Sts. NW


Cover: $22 Adv./ $25 Door

Click here for tickets. 


Want to work off that turkey!  Takeyah of Core Connection Lifestyle will be offering Urban Cleanse, a 1/2-day detox seminar on Sunday.
The detoxification and cleansing seminar will include:

- Information on types of cleanses
– Discussion on the benefits of detox
– A detoxing yoga class
– Resources and tips on healthy living
– Delicious juices and smoothies
– Complimentary follow-up session
– 25% off Get Clean: 7-Day Post-Holiday Cleanse

Sunday, November 28
Center for Green Urbanism

The investment for this event is $85. However, the first 6 people to invest can register for $60. Just use the code ‘detox112810′ at checkout.

Register here.

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