Hello Good Folks!
To tell the truth, ThatKellieGirl has been in a funk! And I really wasn’t able to come out of if until I began to listen to the words I was speaking to myself. I realized that I was in a funk because I was speaking negatively about my circumstance. For instance, the statement of “No one respects what I do” began to manifest. I planted those seeds and kept nurturing them with my words. And ultimately, no one respected what I was doing (in my reality). The simple, yet POWERFUL act of speaking life to yourself and to others can really change your attitude and ultimately your situation. However, this change of action only occurs when you “let it go”.
When we usually get into these funks, I find it is because we have been offended, looked over, ignored, addressed inappropriately, etc… Basically, we’ve been hurt. When this happens, I believe we have too personally attached ourselves to a thing or a situation. By attaching ourselves, we have based our value on something external… our job, friends, family, appearance or anything. Therefore, our happiness, joy and success is based upon the ebbs and flows of life. So when times are good, we feel good– and when times are bad we feel bad. I believe this is harmful to our spiritual and mental health because we are neglecting the inner person. So as long as you are making a six figure salary, you are considered successful and happy. However, in reality, you have low self-esteem and crave constant validation. On the flip side, you have lost your job, so you begin to feel that you are less than others and something is wrong with you. By “beginning within”, we begin to acknowledge any past hurt or pain we are holding onto, so we can begin to heal. Ultimately, each of us should find out how to be happy from the inside, out.
In life, we are going to go through some changes. It is inevitable. So, it’s not about the good and the bad times. It’s about our response to those moments. For that is how we develop habits, behaviors and character as a person. Therefore, I have vowed to first, always speak life over my life and others. Second, place my value in my spiritual, mental and physical well-being. And lastly, if in the process, someone or something hurts my feelings, let it go (9 times out of ten, it actually doesn’t have anything to do with you) so I can move forward.
This Saturday, catch Rahsaan Patterson, Kindred and Black Alley at Fillmore and the other great events below.
Peace and Blessings, ThatKellieGirl :-)
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